It is usual for girls dating men older to them, as everybody prefers a partner who is more experienced. The same rule applies to boys and they too want a lady who could teach them a thing or two when it comes to relationships. Older women are more experienced, wiser, more mature, and more confident.
If you want to attract an older woman, then confidence is absolutely the key. If you’re a teen, then you’re probably still figuring out who you are, who your friends are, what you want to do with your life, and how you fit in. That’s all fine, but when you see or hang out with the older woman, this stuff shouldn’t come to the forefront. Instead, you should show her the positive thoughts you have about yourself. Hey, you may still be figuring it out, but you love who you are, you love hanging out with other people, and you love having a good time.
Being assertive is really a part of being confident. Being assertive means that you’re comfortable enough with yourself to know what you want, and to be okay with telling people what you want. Instead of being wishy- washy or unsure, you should be clear about your needs — whether it’s that you want to get to know her, you want to take her out, or that you have a great idea for a date. Though you should respect her age and wisdom, don’t defer to her all the time just because she’s older, or she’ll start to think that you don’t have much to contribute.
Again, though it may be difficult to feel or act mature when you’re younger, you’ll have to do your best to impress the woman. Women already mature a bit faster than men, and the difference in your maturity levels may be more noticeable if you’re a few years, or more, younger than the woman. You should work on controlling your moods, having reasonable reactions to disappointing or upsetting situations, and minimizing your vulgar language, and other loud noises that may go over well with your buddies on the football team.
Keep things fun
You should work on developing the characteristics that would make you appeal to an older woman, but you shouldn’t forget to keep things fun. There must be something she likes about hanging out with or even dating a younger guy, one of those things could be that younger guys have less baggage than older guys, and less worries about their college classes, jobs, or whatever it is the guys in her age bracket normally worry about.
Use your age to your advantage
Don’t think of being younger as a hindrance, instead, it should be something that appeals to the woman. Your boyish good looks, amazing dance moves, or goofy jokes can be exactly what the woman likes about you. Act like you love being seventeen and that the world is your oyster.
Avoid topics that make you sound young
Though you obviously can’t, or shouldn’t, hide your age, you should avoid topics that make her realize how young you really are. If she’s a college student and you’re only in high school, you shouldn’t hide high-school like aspects of your life, but you shouldn’t emphasize them either. Talk about your family, friendships, or current events, make her see you outside your high school bubble.
An older woman will have more mature friendships, more varied and intense interests, and a busy schedule. Though you may want nothing more than to spend as much time as possible with this woman, you need her to see that you have your own friends, your own schedule, and your own needs.
Be a gentleman
If you want to treat an older woman right, then you absolutely have to be a gentleman. This may be a foreign concept to you, but all it really means is that you should treat her like a lady and give her kindness and respect. If you pick her up in your car, hold the passenger door open for her, and hold the door open for her if you enter a restaurant or any other location.
Show a real interest in her
Don’t make her think that you just have a fetish for older women and that being with her or talking to her means you’ve won some kind of prize. Instead, you should ask her about her interests, what she likes to do on the weekends, and about the relationships that mean the most to her. As you’re getting to know her, you should show that you want to know who she really is.
Don’t forget to be yourself
You may be so focused on trying to impress and attract an older woman that you may be forgetting who you really are. You shouldn’t act like a different person completely, or she’ll see right through you. No woman wants to be with a guy who isn’t genuine. Remember that you’re building your maturity and developing desirable qualities that would make you appeal to a woman, but that doesn’t mean you have to be someone else completely.
Though these tips don’t give you a sure shot at getting and keeping a woman older to you, they are pretty good for taking the first step.